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Friday, December 7, 2007
Disclaimer
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well guys and girls. as promised, will be sharing my TTT notes, which have been rephrased and i've asked permission. please do not distribute this widely. Link our blog and also the TTT webbie. do not paste this on your blog.
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Btw, its better to go for TTT class yourself, because you just *MIGHT* meet someone. i'm kidding.
TTT's about finding the right partner, but even more about self-reflection. Jeremy (coincidently, L's ZS) conducts the class. Expect to see people much older then us tho.. around late twenties, thirties.
anyway, as pastor kong says in the sermon last week, its time for goal setting! so I hope this helps you, whether you are feeling and urge for a merge and there's no emerge.
remember.. its about self reflection!
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Session 1 Do you have what it takes?
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Activity : Write down 10 things that you want your potential partner to have.
Ask yourself, are these personality traits or character traits?
When you are looking for a partner, look for GOOD CHARACTER. Its the foundation and will determine how a person will treat, you, him/herself, and the kids!
Character is...
1) The principles in which you live your life by.
2) The moral attributes that define as as individuals
Simply put, they are the fruits of the spirit: Love, Joy,Peace,patience Kindness,faithfulness,gentleness and self control.
So, why is it hard to find someone of good character?
Because there is a price to pay for it. (going through failures etcetc)
Take a think: Which parts of your character needs changing?
What pitfalls do you have in your life. A chain is only as strong as the weakest link. You may not be rewarded for your strength, but you can be disqualified for your weakness. You cannot change what you are unwilling to confront.
Importance of Integrity
Integrity -> means completeness, prosperity, innocence,uprightness (Hebrew: tome)
It is the uncompromising desire to do what us right according to the highest standards of behaviour, regardless of the situation.
It is only through the building of integrity in our lives that we can reach our FULL potential and fulfill the plan that God has for us.
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Interesting fact:
God does not choose your mate for you! (are you guys shocked? yes remember we have a free will.)
Here are the bible verses to prove it: Prov 18:22, Prov 25:2.
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3 Myths about Love
Myths are beliefs that we have about love that stops us from making smart decisions about love! e.g. from your taiwan/hongkong/korean drama serials, movies (esp Lust Caution), books, herworld, LIME mag etcetc.
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Myth number 1: True romantic love conquers all.
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You won't have relationship problems
You only have yourself to blame when things go wrong
Romance and courtship is enough to make everything work
REALITY CHECK: Compatibility and commitment is needed!
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Myth number 2: You will know true love at first sight.
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What happens if you believe this:
- ignore the rest of the relationship
- miss the chance for real lasting love
- just infatuated with an image
REALITY CHECK: True love takes time, infatuation/crushes for a moment.
Suat just read this cute article about crushes (in case u don't know what crushes are). Click me!
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Myth number 3: The perfect partner will fulfill you completely.
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If you feel emotionally empty before a relationship
you'll prolly feel as empty when you are in a relationship!
Eph 3:17-19
REALITY CHECK: the right partner will fulfill many of your needs but NOT ALL.
Relationships are about giving and sharing. Manage your expectations! Use every season of your life, single or not and live in the NOW.
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Tune in next week for: Types of relationships that won't work!
suatz signing out.
Leaving a foot step - 4:10 PM
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